What To Know

I am a Marriage and Family Therapist. What that means is that I look at a person or couple from a systemic lens. I don’t see a single issue as the problem to solve but rather a symptom of a series of events that led to that issue.

Systemic therapy means I will want to examine the person, their biological family, childhood, friendships, relationships, career, and other life decisions that led to this point.

In its simplest definition attachment style is developed in your earliest years by how your emotional needs were met by your caregivers.

Why does this matter? Mainly because I am an attachment therapist. I find great value in discussing your attachment style as part of your therapeutic process, mostly because it speaks to how you show up in relationships. Knowing your attachment can also help direct our therapy process to wards acheiving a secure attachment style with in your relationships. but we can get into that when we work together.

I believe therapy is important because it allows for each of us to become not only better humans, but to become more fully ourselves. I have done and continue to do my own therapeutic work because I believe it’s what helps us continue to learn and find our authenticity.

Therapy is not easy. It can be some of the most challenging work you do, but my hope is that you will find healing and discover more authentic parts of your self in the process.

My expectation is more of a heads up that if you are willing to engage the unexplored parts of yourself, that you will see a new version of you emerge. That version will demand changes to engagement with others, yourself, finding new people and letting go of currents relationships. It won’t be easy, but I promise you will like who you become.

I know from experience that you can have a deeply connected relationship even when two people are so opposite on paper that they shouldn’t work as a couple.

But if you do the difficult interpersonal and intersectional work of both individual and couples therapy, you have a much better chance of a close and intimate relationship

Couples therapy is extra difficult and why many therapists won’t see couples. It involves taking two different people from different backgrounds and life experiences and somehow getting them to live under the same roof and be happy. Wild, right?

But it is possible. I believe any relationship can find deep emotional, intellectual, physical, and sometimes spiritual connection. The requirement is that both parties WANT to do the difficult work and are COMMITTED to the process of growing their relationship.

My upfront ground rules for sessions are straight forward: 1) come to session willing to engage, 2) No yelling - while it might feel good in the moment to let the enrgy out, it isn’t productive towards healing and improving a relationship, 3) No secrets - keeping secrets are going to keep a wedge and limit the scope of work towards healing and repair in a relationship so we aim to limit secrets from each other.